The Key To Impressing At Interviews And First Dates Is Really Simple, But Most Of Us Don't Do It

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Aliyah Kovner 24 Oct 2018, 12:10

Aside from simply being the best candidate for a job or being irresistibly charming to a person you’re meeting for the first time, there are many psychological hacks one can use to make a good first impression. Some are simple, like smile and make eye contact, whereas others are subtler, such as mirroring the other person’s body language.

Of course, the key component of getting hiring managers and new dates to like you is to convey, modestly of course, that you are good at what you do. As such, many how-to-ace-your-interview-type listicles are dedicated to providing tips about effective and creative ways of highlighting your talents.  

But a new study by psychologist Janina Steinmetz suggests that we have been going about it all wrong. Following a series of three experiments, Steinmetz concluded that people who emphasize how hard work and determination played into their accomplishments came off as more desirable than those who attributed their accomplishments to innate ability.  

"A success story isn't complete without the hard work and explanation of why we were successful,” she said in a statement. “Did the success come easy, thanks to one's talents, or was it attained through hard work? Both of these attributions can be part of successful self-promotion, but my research shows that emphasizing effort is more likely to garner a positive impression and people really want to know the story behind your success.”

A lecturer at the Cass Business School, Steinmetz’s research focuses on the different tactics of "impression management", ie the conscious and unconscious actions we take to portray ourselves in the best possible way in different scenarios. Past work in the field, including an earlier pilot experiment by Steinmetz, has shown that people associate dedication and effort in others with personal warmth and relatability, and therefore expressing these qualities will help one earn favor. On the other hand, highlighting talent is commonly seen as the most effective way to demonstrate one’s competence. The current investigation, published in Basic and Applied Social Psychology, was undertaken to explore how people feel about striking this balance.

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